Monday, April 5, 2010
#Music Monday – POV
What it do folks?….again Happy Easter, hope you all had a nice break if you did have one …. America no dey celebrate Easter….May God forgive them….lol @ at my attempt to speak pidgin….i can't speak it for shit, my side of Surulere we spoke yoruba all the way, the Igbo's and Hausas all around were forced to speak and understand it too…that's how bad…..
So I'm sick again…. I knew there was a reason I was down the other night….I rarely get down, at least I try not to….. I could only stay at work for half a day (the money is paining me sha) ….at some point I sneezed 10 times in a row, and on my way back I thought I was going to have an accident cos I have to close my eyes while sneezing (is it possible to have your eyes open while sneezing?)
So before I share songs with you and as I type this I have no idea the songs I want to share with you....I'm sure it will come to me …. I feel the need to address this issue…. And this is my point of view, will love to hear your point of view….
Since the whole Chris Brown thing happened, I have abstained from talking about it…you all know I'm a breezy fan, he is a great artist and in my opinion a better artist than Rihianna …but with that said I have never and will never condone a man raising his hands on a woman….its' the most cowardly thing ever….one of the reasons I don't talk about it much is cos my parents had a very physical and I mean tear the house apart marriage…I will never forget the very last day they fought and my mum left and never came back….that memory is etched permanently in my brain, where I have been able to repress most of my childhood memories, that one won't go…. I should tell you the actual occurrence but that will be too long (I love both my parents die btw, they can do no wrong in my eyes)….maybe some other day…..anyhooo, so my friend on her fb had put up a post (btw can I add that it was from a no-name magazine) that had what it called the full details of what Chris Brown did and goes that's why she will always hate Breezy….. I'm like a year later, please drop this issue, there are women living this daily (my point being focus on the issue than on this particular incident)….and she goes on to tell me how disappointed she is in me for making light of the issue, she hates cruelty of every kind, she doesn't know anybody that has done that, and if she did she will never talk to them, her parents taught her to respect and love herself and not take anything from anyone……
This is my take….Breezy was in every sense of the word lucky ….and I say this because, the one time he hits her, it came out in public, he might think it ruined his life…but I say it saved him, cos he has had to deal with it, I bet u a million dollars, the possibility he will ever do this again is ZERO ….so people who keep saying they can't forgive him or they hate him…what happened to your Christian nature?….to err is human, to forgive is divine….
Females: before you all act like you independent and no man can do this and do that…. I implore you to learn to be calm….scenario (like a typical naija movie)….woman shouts "you this impotent man, you can't do this and you can't do that, you must kill me now o, we will enter the same pant" ...you get a slap and it starts a fight…. Lets remove that foolishness from our behaviors, there is only so much prodding and pressing buttons a man can take before he lashes out…yes there are some men that are just possessed, and have that controlling thing in them….it's why it's so important to know who you marry, please take your time, choose carefully, God forbid any female who reads this today is ever married to such a man….
Males: walk away, walk away…. It's really that simple, if not for yourself, for your children….learn to control yourself, and realize that your partner is not your property (yes, you paid bride price, and then what?) likewise don't marry a nagging woman….if you are the jealous type, you need to let any female you with know, what ticks you off and makes you jealous….and if you know you have serious anger issues, please deal with them before you marry someone…..
For those of us who are so concerned about abused women/children….don't sit down and talk about it, do something… become an advocate, go talk to them hear their stories, and while you are at it, listen to the stories of the abusive person....there are two sides to every story ….I especially want you to sit down and talk to women, who through it all, stayed and now they are enjoying their marriage (I'm not encouraging you to stay o)….I'm just saying let's stop being so judgmental, casting people into hell, forgetting that we all make mistakes, some worse than others and though you don't forget at least forgive
One of my fav artists in the world is Lagbaja….especially for the first song you are about to hear …..P.S. Miss Tayne Ment, I think you might have been right J ….enjoy guys
Never Far Away – for those in LDR's I'm sure you can relate
Feyin E – Put a smile on your face no matter condition
Skentele Skontolo – Never been more proud of my Native attire
Wishing you a great week guys, my exam is on Sunday….wish me luck, I hate applying for schools…so freaking long…..
P.S. I LOVE YOU